We’re taking a break from our series, “Bringing Respect Back to Women,” for a reminder from Marti. Of course, this piece is all about bringing respect back to women, in fact, it’s a practical way to get these truths out of our heads and into our hearts. Do it, gentlemen, and tell us how it goes. Don’t even worry that she read this and knows all about it. It won’t matter. Horton Voss, the man who taught me about this, did it every Wednesday of his marriage to Edna. And Edna was always captured by the anticipation and delight.

by Marti Fischer

Whether you are married, dating, about to… thinking of… or already getting a divorce, consider this: Just stop. Stop the complexity, and start making your life more simple. Buy your wife, your date, or your departing partner Roses on Wednesday — tomorrow, Wednesday, September 17th, and every Wednesday thereafter.

“But, oh no!” you say, as though shocked that I would suggest such a simple form of manipulation. Yes, my dear brothers, Yes. I will say it again – YES!  Buy her Roses on Wednesday. Think of a Rose on Wednesday as a story of a woman who holds to the earth and to God for life and love for generation after generation.

“Give her Roses on Wednesday when everything is blue. Roses are red and your love must be new. Give her Roses on Wednesday, and keep it shining through. Love her when love’s the hardest thing to do.”

Seek out the woman you lost, gentlemen, which begins within your home, which is your wife, or the woman you are dating, or the woman you let go. Don’t shy away from her. Instead, go deeper into her life. Once in her life, bless her by praying for her, as you are bound together in fellowship with respect; then care for her, and when she asks, “What is this?” tell her the Kingdom of God is here!

Join the Lord’s system. You, my dear brothers, must be convinced that God has a destiny greater and better than your present circumstances. She is God’s gift to you, and you are God’s gift to her. It is not just a truth we can grumble about; it is an attitude of appreciation and not expectation. If you think you have married the wrong person, like Esther, choose to treat her like the right one, and she will turn into the right one. On the other hand, if you married the right one, yet treat her as though she were the wrong one, she will turn into the wrong one. I suggest you declare right now that your mate (past, present or future) is God’s gift to you.

Embrace the Lord’s system, passionately. You must put your arms around her. Eat and drink what is put before you. So often, you have rejected her, and she you, (either verbally or more than likely through the conversations you have with yourself in your head), pointing out the flaws instead of the hope that lies ahead.

Improve with the Lord’s system by conveying a deep value on her and when your improvement is the result, tell her it was from the Lord. She wants to be held, told she is important to you, admired, cherished and treasured by you. What woman would want more?

Bring the kingdom of God to your marriage. Bless your marriage, whether it is alive, dead, or moved on. Wholeheartedly bring to bear the power of God on the areas that require miracles. Once the kingdom is in place, it is bound to expand to your children, your neighbors, your community, and your jobs. I do not think it works in the reverse.

Restructure, from God’s perspective, what you are to be doing. Expect her to come to you with as much anticipation as she would to Christ, and greet her, preparing to die for her as Christ died for you.

The key is to move forward.

No more contemplating, gentlemen. Either join the system, embrace it, improve with it, bring the kingdom of God to your relationship, and when miracles arise, give praise to the Lord for His work through you or … don’t. It’s your call, my dear brothers. Your call. However, whatever you do … resist denial!

Give her Roses on Wednesday when everything is blue
Roses are red and your love must be new
Give her Roses on Wednesday and keep it shining through
Love her when love’s the hardest thing to do

Love isn’t something you wait for
Like some feeling creeping up from behind
Love’s a decision to give more
And keep given every time
Give her …

It’s easy to love when it’s easy
When you’re in a Friday frame of mind
But lovin’ when living’ gets busy
Is what love was waitin’ for all the time
Give her …

Roses on Wednesday when everything is blue
Roses are red and your love must be new
Give her Roses on Wednesday and keep it shining through
You’ve got to love her when love’s the hardest thing
Keep on lovin’ through everything
Love her and love won’t be so hard to do

“Roses on Wednesday”  Words & Music by John Fischer