Step Four: Taking Inventory

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Step 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Search me, O God, and know my heart;

    test me and know my anxious thoughts.

Point out anything in me that offends you,

    and lead me along the path of everlasting life. (Psalm 139:23-24)

Let us test and examine our ways.

    Let us turn back to the Lord. (Lamentations 3:40)

You should examine yourself before eating the bread and drinking the cup. (1 Corinthians 11:28)

Seeing the scriptures printed above, is there any question as to whether this moral inventory step is something that is important to God? Self-examination is mentioned at least by David and Jeremiah in the Old Testament, and Paul in the New.  And it is important to include a warning here. To quote Jens Christy, Recovery Pastor at Capo Beach Church, “We probably know less about ourselves than anybody.” Why is that? Because we have a tendency to bury our sins, addictions and poor choices deep underneath shovels full of denial, blame, rationalizations and justifications. We see other’s sins before we see our own. That’s why Jesus told us not to judge, because we will most likely be judging what we are guilty of. We see in someone else who we are refusing to see in ourselves.

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Step Three: Giving up the whoopee

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Step 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

It’s all about control. So far I have been in control of my own life and I have already admitted that I have been doing a lousy job of it. It’s my own control that has gotten me into the addictions I rely on because I’m not meeting expectations. Whatever I am addicted to is what helps me cope with what I can’t manage. It’s the way I maintain a facade of adequacy. My addiction is whatever makes me feel strong when in fact I am weak and miserable, tired and alone. I don’t have enough fingers to plug all the holes in my life. My addiction is the way I cope with this discrepancy and the false sense of control I hide behind. The thing that has gotten me in the door of the twelve step program is the realization that this pattern of control and cover-up I just described is hurting me and those around me, yet in spite of knowing that, I refuse to face into any of it. I’ve always managed this way and I’m going to continue to manage this way regardless. Like a child with his whoopee blanket, I’m going to hold onto this addictive pattern of mismanagement as long as I possibly can.

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Step Two: A Power greater than ourselves

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Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

There is an oral tradition in AA that is a play on the first three words of this step: “Came to believe.…” It turns it into a three-part unfolding.

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Step One: Powerless and Unmanageable

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Step 1: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.

It has been estimated that over two million people worldwide are currently partaking in the assistance provided by an Alcoholics Anonymous group, and AA has been in existence for 90 years. That alone should tell us that the twelve step principles are connecting with something common to us all. As Christina, one of our readers wrote, “I have come to believe that everyone should embrace a 12-step program and just adapt it to the areas of life that are particular to you.”

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A.A. Meeting Tonight

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Alcoholics Anonymous is an international mutual aid fellowship of men and women coming together with the stated purpose of staying sober and helping other alcoholics achieve sobriety. It was founded in 1935 by Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob Smith of Akron, Ohio. Though it originally grew out of a Christian organization called the Oxford Group, a non-denominational movement modeled after first century Christianity, Bill and Dr. Bob soon wisely saw the value of keeping A.A. from being identified as a religious group.

Though founded on biblical principles, it continues today as a mutual aid fellowship of admitted alcoholics who are agreed that they can no longer manage their lives without the help of others and a higher power, however they identify that being. That “higher power” has been the key to it’s success in that no one has to commit themselves to any particular God, religion or denomination. No one has to receive Christ or become a Christian, though I’m sure many have. That kind of language is not found in any of the movement’s literature.

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Day by Day

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Day by day, day by day,

Oh dear Lord three things I pray:

To see Thee more clearly,

Love Thee more dearly,

Follow Thee more nearly, day by day.

Are you conscious of the days passing by? Do you know what the date is today without looking? Are you watching this or are you just aware of time flying by? Time does move fast. No sooner did I put our Christmas decorations away when Valentine hearts started appearing everywhere.

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Disaster Preparedness

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Here in southern California, we are finding out a lot about disaster preparedness after the devastating wildfires that have taken lives and left thousands homeless in nearby Pacific Palisades and Altadena. Things like thinking ahead about what you would want to take with you if you had to evacuate and having it ready to go, a designated place of contact with someone outside the area in case your family gets separated, installing a sprinkler system on your roof, never letting your gas tank get below half full, having an emergency generator handy for power failures, and an emergency pack or two handy in case of fire or other natural disasters like earthquakes — something else we have to think about around here. These things have become painfully real in the last few weeks.

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Tunnel of Trial

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Anne’s spirit has always been a force of nature, an unyielding testament to what happens when determination meets passion. She’s lived her life chasing the extraordinary, pushing the boundaries of what the human body and spirit can endure. From carving down snow-covered peaks to defying gravity on waves and snowboard rails, Anne has always seen the impossible as merely the next challenge. But now, in the aftermath of her ninth surgery, it’s clear that her greatest challenge may not be a mountain or a wave but a battle against her own body.

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The Power of the Heart

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The head is a good servant but not a great master. This simple yet profound truth underscores the limitations of relying solely on intellect and reason to guide our lives. While our brains are powerful tools, capable of storing vast amounts of information and solving complex problems, they are also susceptible to resistance. Why? Because the brain’s primary function is to keep us safe. It accomplishes this by urging caution, reinforcing limiting beliefs, and crafting excuses to avoid discomfort or risk.

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A Time to Unite: Turning From Blame to Hope Amid Southern California Fires

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As fires continue to rage across Southern California, the world watches with heavy hearts. The relentless Santa Ana winds and parched conditions have fueled widespread devastation, leaving thousands of families grappling with the monumental task of rebuilding their lives.

With the Eaton Fire spreading to over 14,000 acres and only 27% contained, and the Palisades Fire now nearing 24,000 acres with just 13% containment, the challenges faced by firefighters and residents alike are immense. As flames consume landscapes and memories, fear and uncertainty burn just as fiercely in the hearts of those affected.

In times like these, it’s natural for frustration to rise and for fingers to point. Yet, amid the chaos and devastation, blame and shame do not build bridges or heal wounds. The tragedy of these fires demands not division but unity — a shared commitment to support one another through this unprecedented crisis.

One voice that resonates deeply comes from Michael Martin, a globally respected real estate advisor and dear friend of Marti’s. With over 30 years of experience in Southern California, Michael has seen the resilience of this region firsthand. His message, written from the Pacific Palisades, transcends geography and circumstance, touching the universal human spirit. It’s a call to shift our focus from blame to hope, from fear to love.

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