Sinners Anonymous

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Step 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics (sinners), and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

The world is populated with friends. This is because we are all sinners, and most people, deep down in their spiritual sensibilities, know this. So if we think of the Twelve Steps as applying to sinners instead of just alcoholics, then the whole world is a potential AA meeting, or in this case, it would be an SA meeting: Sinners Anonymous.

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Step Eleven: ‘Nevertheless’

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Step 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

Did you ever think that Jesus might have utilized some of the the Twelve Steps of AA? Not because He was following the steps of course but because they are true. In the Garden of Gethsemane, the night Jesus was betrayed and arrested, He was well into what we know today as Step Eleven. It’s just that the rest of His group was asleep, so He had to go it alone. But everything He was experiencing that night in the garden is expressed in the eleventh step which reads: “Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God … praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.”

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Step Ten: ‘I’m Right; You’re Irrelevant’

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Step 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

Today we’re going to take this right/wrong thing to a whole new level. We’re going to give up the need to be right and conclude that the only “right” version of what we’re looking at together is what the other person actually sees. In other words, I’m going to give up my need to be right for the more noble cause of understanding the other person’s perspective.

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Step Nine: Real and Personal

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Step 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible (see Step 8), except when to do so would injure them or others.

Step 8 and Step 9 are connected. Step 8 is about making a list of people we have harmed and deciding if we are willing to go to them and make amends, and Step 9 is actually doing that.

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Step eight: Making a List

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Step 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

This is when it starts getting personal. This is when we start to involve others in this process. I can spend lots of time working on myself, (I can even fool myself into believing I’m doing what is asked of me) but the minute you bring someone else into the picture it becomes more complicated. This is where accountability comes in.

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Step Seven: The Posture of Grace

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Step 7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

Forget religion. Forget world religions. Forget atheists in foxholes. Forget what’s fair. This is the key to the 12-step program; everything builds upon this.

There are really only two kinds of people in the world. Those who insist on meeting God on their own terms, and those who realize He insists on meeting them on His; and realizing that His terms are beyond their ability to perform, they meet Him on their knees, knowing their sin, and crying out for His mercy. That’s it. It’s all in the attitude of the heart.

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Step Six: Pre-op

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Step 6. Are ready to have God remove all these defects of attitude and character.

If this doesn’t hurt, it’s probably not happening.

What does it take for God to remove these defects in attitude or character? It takes a lot, because we have undoubtedly gotten very comfortable with them. We’ve been self-medicating for years. These are the judgments, rationalizations, accusations, manipulations and put-downs we have relied on most of our lives. They are the equalizers by which we try to make up for our own deficiencies in character by putting others down. We are constantly evening the moral score with other people. As long as God grades on the curve we’ll probably be okay, because everyone else is so messed up (and aren’t we glad when we find that out!).

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Step Five: Why they go

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Step 5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Why do people keep going to AA meetings even after years and years of sobriety? Here are a few reasons.

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Step Four: Taking Inventory

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Step 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Search me, O God, and know my heart;

    test me and know my anxious thoughts.

Point out anything in me that offends you,

    and lead me along the path of everlasting life. (Psalm 139:23-24)

Let us test and examine our ways.

    Let us turn back to the Lord. (Lamentations 3:40)

You should examine yourself before eating the bread and drinking the cup. (1 Corinthians 11:28)

Seeing the scriptures printed above, is there any question as to whether this moral inventory step is something that is important to God? Self-examination is mentioned at least by David and Jeremiah in the Old Testament, and Paul in the New.  And it is important to include a warning here. To quote Jens Christy, Recovery Pastor at Capo Beach Church, “We probably know less about ourselves than anybody.” Why is that? Because we have a tendency to bury our sins, addictions and poor choices deep underneath shovels full of denial, blame, rationalizations and justifications. We see other’s sins before we see our own. That’s why Jesus told us not to judge, because we will most likely be judging what we are guilty of. We see in someone else who we are refusing to see in ourselves.

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Step Three: Giving up the whoopee

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Step 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

It’s all about control. So far I have been in control of my own life and I have already admitted that I have been doing a lousy job of it. It’s my own control that has gotten me into the addictions I rely on because I’m not meeting expectations. Whatever I am addicted to is what helps me cope with what I can’t manage. It’s the way I maintain a facade of adequacy. My addiction is whatever makes me feel strong when in fact I am weak and miserable, tired and alone. I don’t have enough fingers to plug all the holes in my life. My addiction is the way I cope with this discrepancy and the false sense of control I hide behind. The thing that has gotten me in the door of the twelve step program is the realization that this pattern of control and cover-up I just described is hurting me and those around me, yet in spite of knowing that, I refuse to face into any of it. I’ve always managed this way and I’m going to continue to manage this way regardless. Like a child with his whoopee blanket, I’m going to hold onto this addictive pattern of mismanagement as long as I possibly can.

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