Meeting sin head-on

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8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Has anybody noticed we’ve been stuck between Step 8 and Step 9 for a while now?

Here’s one thing I’m learning about the Twelve Steps. You don’t work through them as if you were going through a grocery list, marking off items as you put them in your shopping cart. As soon as you try to wrap up a step, you realize something you missed about an earlier step, or you learn a deeper ramification about a step than what you previously surmised. This is why people can be in their 27th year of recovery still going to AA meetings and still “working” the steps. You never complete a step. You “work” the steps. They are doorways into things we need to face, change or remember about ourselves and our relationships with God and others.

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Those darn snakes are still here!

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“Just as Moses lifted up the snake in the wilderness, so the Son of Man must be lifted up, that everyone who believes may have eternal life in him.” John 3:14-15

I call this Christ’s version of John 3:16. It’s two verses earlier and it’s set in quotes because John records it as the words of Jesus. The famous words of John 3:16 which follow — For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life — are part of the commentary of John. John was talking about the cross of Christ which was planted by God in the middle of the history of the world. Jesus was talking about the snake-on-a-pole that was planted by Moses in the middle of the Jewish camp in the wilderness that was the forerunner of His death. Jesus said this Moses-event was an early picture of His own death on the cross. What we can learn from that Old Testament event is something with profound implications for all who believe, and points out why AA and the Twelve Steps are perhaps a better model for the church than what most might think.

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God, as we are coming to know Him

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There are a lot of references to God in the twelve steps, and yet AA has managed to stay fairly clear of many of the controversies that go along with religion. They meet often in churches (because churches will donate their facilities more readily than others), but the things that keep people commonly away from church don’t seem to keep them from AA meetings. People come as they are. Some smoke outside during breaks. There may be some raw language used in the telling of stories. No one minds. There is no pastor or even AA leader in charge. No one talks down to anyone; they all talk across. The lead passes from one to another each week, but these are people who have been coming for years and have their own stories to tell. There is no “minister to alcoholics.” If ministry goes on, it’s alcoholics ministering to each other. Most non-Christians are comfortable at an AA meeting because no one is trying to push anything. They’re just trying to help. It’s a totally different environment than church. It shouldn’t be, but it is.

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A posture of grace

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Forget religion. Forget world religions. Forget atheists in foxholes. Forget what’s fair. There are really only two kinds of people in the world. Those who insist on meeting God on their own terms, and those who realize He insists on meeting them on His; and realizing that His terms are beyond their ability to perform, they meet Him on their knees, knowing their sin, and crying out for His mercy. That’s it. It’s all in the attitude of the heart.

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Club Grace

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Remember, we are card-carrying Christians. We established that this week. That means: We are all sinners who have fallen short of the glory of God; we have all received the free gift of God’s salvation through Jesus Christ that we don’t deserve; and we are depending on Him every moment for His life to be seen in us.

I’m pointing out these things today by way of review because I find we have to keep on saying them as they are so contrary to the way we normally think. For instance, we have nothing to prove and nothing to hide. Let’s think about that for a minute.

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Why they go

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Thank you to those who have written and told us your stories so far. I think I’m finally starting to get it. I’m starting to get AA, and the steps, and why it works. You can find the answer in why people keep going regularly to meetings, sometimes multiple meetings a day, even after years and years of sobriety.

They go because they feel safe.

I have heard this from virtually everybody in AA. Their safest place is at the meeting. At the meeting is the only place they are free from temptation to give in to their addiction, so if they are feeling particularly pressed, they get to the nearest meeting.

They go because they feel useful.

One of our readers writes: “I go to meetings to meet the newcomer — the new person that is going to walk through the door, with that deer-in-the-headlights look. I love to welcome them and give them the 6 magic words: ‘You are going to be alright.’” This is truly grace turned outward.

They go because they are working on their lives in an environment where everyone else is doing the same thing.

Someone recently told me, “No one makes you do anything. You do everything on your own free will.” That’s freeing, and it’s also encouraging. It makes you want to work on yourself.

They go because they feel empowered.

This is the power of God. This is what happens when you give up. You surrender your life to God and you discover His Spirit is there to give you what you need to follow Him.

They go because whatever happens, there’s always the next meeting.

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Card-carrying Christians

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Something dawned on me last night during our BlogTalkRadio interview with a veteran AA recovery survivor who will celebrate 27 years of sobriety in June (congratulations, Tom!). He still goes to roughly three AA meetings a week. Why? Wouldn’t you think that after that long, he wouldn’t need the meeting to stay sober? Well there are at least two answers to that question. The first answer is that you are never out of danger as an alcoholic. Many have lapsed into drinking again after more that 27 years of sobriety, and the first thing to go would be the meetings. The meetings remind you of your dependence on God and others. At an AA meeting, the support is tangible.

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From spring training to life

[This is my last Spring Training entry for 2018. I hope you’ve enjoyed it, especially those who followed along on Facebook. Thanks for coming along. Tomorrow we will return to the 12-step theme.]

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Okay, now it’s the second watch. It’s still the First Watch restaurant but it’s my second time this weekend. It’s Monday morning and it’s a totally different story here. I have a booth to myself and there are only three other tables taken. Quiet as a mouse. I know I should branch out and try some other places but First Watch handed out a 20% discount card as I left the game yesterday and I couldn’t resist. Good marketing.

I’m trying to figure out what it is I like so much about this weekend. The road trip for sure. The alone time. Sounds selfish but it’s how I’m put together. The breakfast’s out. The baseball games. It really is fun to watch baseball for baseball’s sake. Nothing counts except the experience. And the experience is intimate. You can watch the interaction of players and coaches and fans, and everyone’s having a good time. There’s truly a party atmosphere in the stands. People clap and cheer for all 27 outs made by the home team. You don’t always get that at a regular ball game unless it’s October. These are true fans; no fair weather friends here.

We need more spring training in our lives. We need more enjoyment of things for enjoyment’s sake. Spring training is a little like grace. You get to play but your performance doesn’t count against you. In Friday’s game, Anthony Rizzo, first baseman for the Chicago Cubs, dropped a routine little pop-up. Banged right off the bottom of his glove. He will never miss that ball for the rest of the year. Someone near me called out, “It’s okay, Rizzo; it’s just spring training.” Would that we all had a break like that. Well we do. It’s called grace. God is not keeping a record of our mistakes. He’s not even counting our sins against us. He’s not adding up our wrongs.

So what’s to keep us from sinning big time, since it’s only spring training? Well, heck, don’t you want to make the team? Don’t you want to do the best you can? Since Christ has already done everything, don’t you want to be a part of that? It’s all a part of a mentality change. We’re not trying to see what we can get away with; we’re trying to see what we can contribute to the team. And since it’s all about being available to have God work through us, then all we have to do is show up for life.

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Taking the first watch

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(Taking a brief hiatus from our 12-step series for a couple Catches from my spring training weekend in Phoenix, Arizona.)

So it’s the first morning of my spring training weekend and I am waiting for what I think is the best pancake in Phoenix. It’s at a place I found last year called First Watch. I think it’s a really bad name because I can never remember it, but no one else seems to have that problem since there are now eleven of these in town and every one is going to have a half hour wait about now. I’m waiting for them to text me on my cell phone when my table is ready, which is a little worrisome since I have 2% power on my phone right now. Nobody call me, please.

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‘Go East Young Man’

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By the time you are reading this, I will be cruising east on Interstate 10 towards Phoenix, Arizona. Destination: Tempe Diablo Stadium, where the spring training version of the Los Angeles Angels of Anaheim will be playing the spring training version of the Chicago Cubs of Chicago at 1:00pm Mountain Standard Time. This is my much anticipated annual baseball weekend getaway that my wife, Marti has given me for Christmas the last five years. And just what is the spring training vision of a major league baseball team? It’s basically the anticipated first string regulars playing the first five innings while the minor league prospects pick up the last four innings, and any who are fighting for yet unclaimed positions play the hardest of anyone.

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