’Til death do us part

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Trust is the foundation of any relationship. It is built by making and keeping promises. These promises are not the big things we say but all of the little things we do that keep the promises we made. Therefore, making and keeping promises means everything.

When you break a promise, you lose trust — the foundation of a relationship is eroded.  It is exceptionally difficult to restore that trust.  A lot of work must be put in place to rebuild the trust and is focused solely on making right what you have done to break the promise you made in the first place.

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Everybody loves a wedding

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Everybody loves a wedding. You see a bride and a groom or a wedding party filing out of a church or a hotel, or you see a car decorated “Just Married” and you immediately stop what you are doing and notice. You can’t help it. There is joy. There is laughter. There is certainty. There is celebration. There is hope. You know there will be rough seas ahead, but right now the sky is blue, the sea is calm, the breeze is at your back, and there is clear sailing ahead.

Everything is new. You love — you are confident of that — and you are loved back by someone you know you don’t deserve — someone better than you could have ever imagined. Today you are invincible. No matter what lies ahead, you know you can weather it.

Our wedding last weekend was a remarriage. Trust had been broken, but it can be rebuilt. It will take time, but it will be possible. The key is to make promises and keep them, and have a recovery plan for when you break a promise because no one’s perfect.

I broke a promise to you yesterday. You didn’t get a Catch. I have good excuses, but that does not matter. I still broke the promise. I could have just let it go by and some of you wouldn’t even have noticed because you don’t read every Catch anyway. Others of you might have thought the problem was with your delivery system. I might have gotten away with it in most cases, but an important trust would have been broken. Trust can only be built with truth. Thus, I am telling you the truth in an attempt to regain your trust.

Resized_2Jim and Suzanne are rebuilding their trust, and it started with a wedding. The pictures you see here were taken by a person in the nearby restaurant who was taken by our ceremony, snapped some pictures and shared them with us later. See what I mean? Everyone loves a wedding.

I know there are many relationships that need to rebuild trust. Jim and Suzanne need your prayers. Old habits are hard to break. Others of you have asked for prayer, still others of you need to. That’s what our prayer button is for. Use it.

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Returning to the wife of your youth

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Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because He pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. You cry out, “Why doesn’t the Lord accept my worship?” I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. but you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows.

Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are His. And what does He want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. Malachi 2:13-15

God cares about the quality of our relationships. He cares as much about our marriages as He does about our worship. You can’t have treacherous relationships and claim to worship God. It’s all interconnected. We can’t get on with Him if we aren’t getting on with our wives and husbands.

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Moralistic Therapeutic Deism and the rise of a new frontier

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In a timely article in the New York Times by Rod Dreher entitled, “Trump Can’t Save American Christianity,” an effective argument is raised that American Christianity is actually not worth saving because it is not true Christianity. It’s not “historical” or “biblical;” it’s spiritually thin; and it has sold its soul to politics.

In fact, Christian Smith, a sociologist at Notre Dame who has been studying the religious and spiritual lives of millennials, has come up with a new name for American Christianity: Moralistic Therapeutic Deism.

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Making God happy

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I still remember when Chandler was much younger and we witnessed a rainbow, and he blurted out, “I think that means to me God’s happy.”

This comment, out of nowhere, was a total delight. Not to mention that he was right. The rainbow first appeared as a sign to Noah that God would never again destroy the earth by water. Chandler’s insight that God is happy about that is brilliant, and a testimony to how much kids know that we don’t know they know. A rainbow means that God is happy.

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Too good for God?

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No one is too anything for God.

Now, obviously this needs to be explained, but not too much, because I bet you get the gist. The idea would be to put in any obstacle that you think might disqualify you for a relationship with God, such as “No one is too bad for God.” Or “No one is too stubborn ornery… unfaithful… ugly… sinful… stupid… too anything for God.”

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Standing in for the Spirit

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“Tell them I love them.”

Here is what the Spirit of God whispers to us all the time when we are speaking to someone: “Tell him I love him.” It could be to a friend recovering from bypass surgery in the hospital; it could be to a homeless man, smelly and half nuts; it could to be your husband just going out the door for a few groceries—and never coming back; it could be to the lady who cut in front of you in line; it could be to your best friend – the one you won’t ever see again, who left the party early to walk home by himself… In all of these situations, the Holy Spirit wants to have us stand in for him. He wants us to deliver the message. It’s the ultimate gift, and it explains why God sent His Son into the world, but it’s less complicated than that. It’s distilled into three words, one phrase, and it’s the point of it all: “Tell her I love her.”

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I Still Believe

For people like us in places like this

We need all the hope that we can get

     – James Paul Goodwin and Michael Been

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As believers who have been rescued from the stereotype, we share a strong sense of passion for the possible, knowing there never was a night or a problem that could defeat a sunrise or a hope. As the unstoppable Helen Keller put it, “The world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming it.”

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‘End of discussion’ is the last thing we want

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I know a story about a Christian who was being harassed by an atheist for her beliefs. After the atheist gave some compelling reasons for his disbelief in God, the Christian replied, “Good, we’re both believers then.” The atheist, quite shocked by that statement, asked the Christian what she meant by calling him a believer. The Christian went on to explain, “Look, since we both have strong reasons for our beliefs, why don’t we sit down and talk about them.”

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In the lower right-hand corner of you

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Meet Ariél. She is a 19-year-old sophomore at a college back east, and it is very important to her that you know she has an accent mark over the “e” in her name. When she told me her name, and I asked her how it was spelled, she was careful to mention the accent. I asked her why that was important, and she said it was what made her different… distinctive… what made her stand out. I asked her if the accent changed the pronunciation of her name at all, and she said that wasn’t important. It wasn’t as important how people said her name, as it was simply knowing it was there… the accent mark, that is.

I wish you could meet Ariél. She has bright brown eyes, and I’ve never thought of dark eyes being bright, but God somehow figured out how to make hers that way. As we talked, there was something about that accent mark that kept bringing me back. I began to think that maybe she was onto something — maybe everybody has an accent mark of some kind, if not in their name, in something else about them. Everyone has that one thing that sets them off from the rest — that thing that makes them one-of-a-kind. Actually, isn’t it true that each one of us is one-of-a-kind?

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