Finding a new road

(Not this one.)

(Not this one.)

Are you aware of having certain patterns in your life tat you are unable — even unwilling to change? They seem so entrenched, so beyond your ability to do anything about. You might even see yourself walking in the same path of a parent or a parent’s parent and you realize this rut runs generations deep. How am I ever going to be able to overcome against these odds?

The scriptures give us a clue as to how to answer that in Romans 12:2 where Paul wrote, “Do not be conformed any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Being conformed to a pattern sounds a lot like being in a rut. We all have ruts we run in. Paul suggests that the way to a new path is through renewing our minds. This makes sense when you realize that the patterns we run in are fueled in large part by our thinking. We have these old tapes that constantly run over and over again. They tell us we can’t change, or we are not loved, or such and such has too much power over us, or it will cost to much in personal investment to change. We might actually have to work at change — be awake and alert to it — make ourselves make different choices. Believe me, this is hard.

By renewing our minds, we remind ourselves that there are new tapes where we are concerned, played by the Holy Spirit and power is available for change through his presence in our lives. Even in this Book of Romans there are life-changing truths that can break the patterns. For instance earlier in this book he told us that we’re all in sin — even the “best” of us — but that Christ’s death and resurrection has set us free from that sin. We no longer have to subject ourselves to the vicious sin and guilt cycle because Christ has removed us from being wed to the law to being wed to Himself. We have a new husband as it were, and this one is full of grace, truth and forgiveness. We are not tied to a taskmaster; we are tied to Christ. And then there is the new life in the Spirit made possible by Christ being in us to the extent that we can actually take off that old life —the one that runs in all those ruts — and put on the new life that Christ has made possible.

These are truths you can renew your mind with. This is not just positive thinking or a motivational weekend designed to blow us out of our ruts and give us new tapes to run (those tapes you have to buy at the end of  the weekend). These tapes are true, because they are based on God’s word, and God’s word never returns without accomplishing what it says.

This is why we need reminders. New ways of thinking that God has established as a fact in space and time and you and I can count on for our step by step life in the trenches.

Yes, it will take effort. Change doesn’t come easy nor does it come overnight, but it comes as we purposely focus on the new truths about ourselves that Christ has won. We are loved. We are forgiven. We have his Spirit. We don’t have to walk in those old ruts. We can break the pattern. There is no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus.

There are a lot of bad tapes out there; there’s a lot of negative reinforcement in here. Do nothing and you probably will keep on rattling along in the same rut. Renew your mind with God’s word and His truth about yourself and you can stand down those old tapes and start down a new path. It’s worth it. We aren’t just waiting for heaven. We are fighting a battle here. We are on a mission. We have a gospel to live out. If it doesn’t work in our life, how can we recommend it to anyone else?

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The most interesting woman in the world

DSC_0157A number of you have asked about Anne (everyone calls her “Annie”). She finally got her broken jaw undone after being wired shut for twice as long as originally intended, only to find out it’s not healing properly so she is going to have to have more surgery down the road.

This kind of thing is typical for Anne. She seems to always get the worst of it. She doesn’t break her jaw in one place, she breaks it in four. She doesn’t heal in 4 weeks, she heals in eight, and then she doesn’t heal right.

On her best days she is all consumed with the people she is serving as a Physician’s Assistant. She looks them in the eye when they tell her about their pain. They feel someone in a medical jacket actually cares, because she does. She remembers everything they tell her without looking at a clipboard or writing it down. She has been known to out-diagnose doctors because she feels the patients’ pain. She has been known to crawl into bed next to the dying so they don’t die alone. When her mouth was still wired shut, she was back working at the same hospital she was in only a few weeks prior, helping a patient in the same room, in the same bed she was in. She complains about the long hours and the constant demand, but in truth, she wouldn’t have it any other way. (I feel a little like I’m writing a Dos Equis commercial about the most interesting woman in the world, but in this case, it’s all true.)

On her worst days — I’m not going to go there very long, because on her worst days all this attention goes inward, and everyone around her is consumed with her problems. But that’s okay because those who love her know it comes with the package. It comes with living larger than life.

When she asks, “Why me?” I can’t always tell her it’s because she is privileged (though she is). I just have to look at her and know that she is worthy of enduring pain, of identifying with more people. Except for on her worst days, what she is going through is not about her.

Think about yourself, because the same thing is true for you. Whatever you are going through is ultimately not for or against you, it is for someone else, and the more you get, the more you can give. That goes as much for pain and hardship as it does for good things. Maybe even more.

God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. For the more we suffer for Christ, the more God will shower us with his comfort through Christ. Even when we are weighed down with troubles, it is for your comfort and salvation! For when we ourselves are comforted, we will certainly comfort you. Then you can patiently endure the same things we suffer. We are confident that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in the comfort God gives us. (2 Corinthians 1:3-7 NLT)

Counseling at a camp for diabetic kids.

Counseling at a camp for diabetic kids.

Marti was studying this passage yesterday and pointed out to me that the word “comfort” here would be better translated “strength” or “strengthen,” which makes better sense, because we’re not talking about the kind of comfort that says, “Now, now, everything’s going to be all right.” It’s a strengthening kind of comfort. Much more solid. Read through these verses again and substitute strength or strengthen for comfort and you’ll get the idea.

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God’s new digs

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So King David was settling into his palace one day in a time of relative peace with Israel’s enemies at bay and his kingdom united, when he started to feel bad about his fancy cedar digs compared to the Ark of God out in a tent somewhere. So he told the prophet Nathan about this, and Nathan ended up hearing a message from God for David that went something like this: “So you want to build me a temple? Why? I’ve never lived in a temple. From day one with you guys, my home has always been a tent, moving from one place to another. And have I ever complained? Has anyone ever heard me say, ‘Why haven’t you built me a beautiful cedar temple?’

“No, David, you forget that I’ve been with you since you were a little shepherd boy. I chose you to lead my people. I’ve been with you wherever you’ve gone. I’ve destroyed all your enemies. I’ve provided you a permanent homeland, and now I’ll tell you what I’m going to do. I’m going to build you a house — a dynasty of kings! And I will establish your throne forever.” (2 Samuel 7:1-16)

Now isn’t that so God? “I’ll keep the tent; you take the house.”

When you think of it, really, it’s pretty silly to imagine building God a house. Now if He were just a little god, an idol of our making, a house would make sense. But He is God, the one who made the universe. The one who made us. The one who uses the earth as a footstool. How could we possibly build anything that would contain Him?

Just like David; we can’t. And the truly remarkable thing is that, just as with David, God, instead, is building a house for us. Jesus is preparing a house for us in heaven, but there’s more than that. As God established David’s throne, so He is establishing our future. It’s not only a house He has for us, it’s a legacy.

It’s as if God says to you and to me: “I’m going to establish you. Your legacy will be forever. Don’t worry about building a place for me. You can’t. In fact, why would you put me in a temple when I’m already at large in the world? No if you want me in a temple, then start getting used to the fact that you are my temple! I live in you! You’re the only home I have or desire here on earth.

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The improbable truth

thHas it ever made anyone curious why the Bible questions its own answers? Take the book of Ecclesiastes, for instance — twelve chapters dedicated to the propagation of the meaninglessness of life. And this is not just the author having a bad hair day. This is an investment of a wise king’s entire life seeking the meaning of his existence. Every attempt to answer the big question is meticulously pursued, and with all the resources to make it legitimate. If Solomon wanted to pursue wealth, he had wealth to exceed the richest kings at the time. If he wanted to pursue pleasure, he had thousands of concubines at his bidding. And in his pursuit of wisdom, his wisdom was unparalleled in human history.

King Solomon was no armchair philosopher. He had the opportunity to try out each one of his solutions, and every time he came up with the same conclusion: “Meaningless, meaningless… Everything is meaningless” (Ecclesiastes 1:2). And even when he does concede, in the end, that the only reasonable thing to do is to fear God and keep His commandments, it’s not like he’s ready to celebrate this final discovery (Ecclesiastes 12:13). In fact, it reads like a resignation. You finish this book and you want to go, “When’s the next Tony Robbins seminar? I need some cheering up!”

Actually, the fact that Ecclesiastes is in the Bible does two things for me. First, it gives me confidence that the rest of the Bible is true. If Christianity were a construct of the human mind, you wouldn’t find this stuff in its portfolio, that’s for sure. What propaganda features differing views? Who includes the opposing arguments in their literature, and even makes them look good? And yet the Bible declares life meaningless, it shows bad people having a good time and good people having a miserable time. The hero of the whole book dies a brutal death in the end, for heaven’s sake, and then He calls His followers to come and die with Him! Well, whoopee! Where do I sign up? I’m sorry, but to all those who say someone made up Christianity, I have to say, based on what? Certainly nothing I know of in human nature.

Secondly, it makes me look more deeply into things. Maybe the reason following Christ doesn’t magically make this life a party is because there is something more than this life to consider. And maybe Solomon was so old and spent by the time he finally got to it that he couldn’t really enjoy what was enjoyable about what he found. And maybe, just maybe, the reason God put his story there was for us to benefit from his life’s search, take his word for it, and start living where he left off.
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Besides being wise himself, the Quester also taught others knowledge. He weighed, examined, and arranged many proverbs. The Quester did his best to find the right words and write the plain truth.

The words of the wise prod us to live well. They’re like nails hammered home, holding life together. They are given by God, the one Shepherd.

But regarding anything beyond this, dear friend, go easy. There’s no end to the publishing of books, and constant study wears you out so you’re no good for anything else. The last and final word is this:

Fear God.
Do what he tells you.

Ecclesiastes 12:9-13 (The Message)

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Paths

thTrue or false:
All paths lead to God. False.
Any path can lead to God. True.
It all depends on which end of the path you are looking from.

True or false:
All paths that lead to God have to go through Jesus. True.
Therefore, there is only one path to God. False.

There are as many paths to God as there are people who find Jesus.

Everybody’s path is different. Some paths go through fundamentalism and end up with Jesus. Some paths go through Catholicism and end up with Jesus. Some paths go through Islam and end up finding Jesus. Some paths go through Buddhism and end up finding Jesus. Some paths go through atheism and end up with Jesus. Some paths go through Mormonism and end up with Jesus. All paths that get to God go through Jesus, but you can start from anywhere. God is fully capable of drawing those who are His from anywhere. And He does.

It isn’t necessary to convince someone to change paths. We don’t have to carry around WRONG WAY signs to flash in front of people.

There is no such thing as a wrong path; there is only the path you are on, and it is not necessary to get someone off the path they are on, and onto the “right” one. It’s only necessary to point people to Jesus. Anyone should be able to see Jesus from just about anywhere. Especially if they are truly looking for God. The point is to point people in the direction of Christ from wherever they are.

Christians as well as people from other religions, cults, or no religion, who are truly seeking God, will find Jesus. Christians and people from other religions, cults, or no religion, who are not really seeking God, will not find Jesus. They will just be satisfied with religion or their own way.

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Working for God’s HR Department

th-1“I can say I have met the most amazing people on this planet when I have pushed the walls aside and just gotten to know people for who they are.” So writes one of our Catch members recently. He works in the Human Resources Department of a major university and describes himself as a “Generalist.”

“I take on a variety of different HR problems like employee relations issues, international employment, discrimination, harassment, bullying, etc. All of these areas can show improvement when people are open to one another and willing to learn about another.”

“All of those situations and countless others in my job can immensely benefit from a willingness to learn about others and put them before ourselves.” I would suggest this would be a great attitude for us all to have especially in the world around everyone we know and meet, but especially people who are not Christians.

I come out of a certain “Christian” bent on the world which says everyone is different from me unless proven otherwise. I’m not sure where this bias comes from but it is fed by a fear and insecurity that is entirely unnecessary when you are following the Lord who is in all and through all and being directed by the Holy Spirit.

“Finding that the person from the other side of the world with a different religion, different culture, different values, different ‘nearly everything’ is still in fact, just like me…” is a reality that should be as prevalent among Christians as anybody. Come on, people, let’s start thinking like we are all in God’s HR Department.

Instead of maximizing our differences, I suggest we look today for what we have in common with people. It’s what we have in common that will allow us to establish relationships with people, and relationships are the means by which the Gospel of Welcome goes forth. It’s all about knowing and loving people.

We’ve created a ton of gospel “tools” over the years to help with the spread of the good news of Jesus, but in the end these are no more than tools. There is simply no substitute for a relationship.

Follow Jesus. Learn to do what He did. He touched people. He was hardly ever alone. His nickname was “friend of sinners.” The degree to which other people are more important than ourselves is the degree to which God can use us in the world.

Live in anticipation of the amazing people you will meet today.

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The art of conversation

Phil & Larry

Phil & Larry

Well it’s about time to visit my favorite movie again. It’s a movie that captures the evangelical background I grew up in so well that I cringe to watch it. I always feel like someone’s been going through my underwear drawer when I do. I know I’ve visited it a number of times  in the Catch but I honestly feel every Christian in American should see this movie at least once every two years. If not only to learn to laugh at yourself, but to also get in the habit of seeing faith and Christianity from an outsider’s point of view.

In The Big Kahuna starring Kevin Spacey and Danny DeVito, Peter Facinelli plays a young Christian fresh out of Christian college on his first business trip where the three of them are trying to land the “Big Kahuna” — the CEO representing a very large account for their company. Turns out the young Christian is the only one of the three who actually gets a hearing with the man, and he spends the whole time talking to him about Jesus. An argument ensues about when it’s appropriate to talk about your faith and when it’s not. It’s a movie with a long list of favorite lines, but one of them is when Danny DeVito counsels the young Christian about his aggressive approach to witnessing:

“The minute you lay hold of a conversation in order to steer it in a certain direction, it ceases to be a conversation,” DeVito says, “it’s a sales pitch; and you aren’t a human being anymore, you’re a marketing rep. If you really care about the man, ask him about his kids … his wife … his dreams…”

That’s worth putting on your mirror, or your wall, or wherever it is that you remind yourself of what’s important. “If you really care about the man, ask him about his kids… his wife… his dreams….”

Bob

Bob

Carrying on a human conversation takes a certain amount of skill few of us have been trained for. We are just feeling our way along. Asking the person to talk to you about things they love to talk about seems like a no-brainer, but it’s not, especially when we are so selfishly waiting for someone to listen to what we want to talk about. And if you don’t know what their interests are, ask them questions until you find out. Don’t wait to talk, wait to listen.

Witnessing prep for many of us should contain some basic training for life skills. Most of us could learn more of what we need for making relationships from How to Win Friends and Influence People, than from another Bible Study.

“If you really care about the man, ask him about his kids… his wife… his dreams….”

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Doobie praise

th-4Okay we’re going to go out this week with a bang.

I’ve been working on a writing project all week and have been spending a lot of time at my friendly local coffee bistro. It’s a cozy place and creates its own steady buzz which helps me concentrate. For some reason writing has always worked better for me in a public place like this. Maybe it’s just being surrounded by humanity that keeps things more real. I know it keeps me awake; that’s one of the main reason I go.

There’s one kid who works here who is convinced I am Steven Spielberg. I tell him that Steven Spielberg has hair, but he keeps calling me Steven anyway. (Actually with a baseball cap on and my current goatee, there is a slight resemblance.) So I humor him.

The music in this place is always different. It depends on who’s working. But regardless, three minutes to 11:00 PM, whoever is working puts on “Closing Time” by Semisonic: “Closing time/Open all the doors and let you out into the world…” and cranks it up so you have no choice but to pack up and leave. I have to admit, it’s kind of a nice wrap on the day.

One day this week, though, “Jesus Is Just Alright with Me” by the Doobie Brothers came on and I had to digress for a moment. In my younger, more Pharisaical days, I was always suspicious of songs like this. Why did they write this? Are they talking about the Jesus of the scriptures? Are they making fun of anything? Are any of them Christians?

Now I don’t care about any of these dynamics. I just worship. I’m just glad that the Holy Spirit let this out into the world. I only care that the sound of His name is seeping through the bars and clubs of the world – that playlists are playing it and that my little barista brought it to my attention this week so I could bring it to you.

So plug your earphones in, click on the picture and raise a coffee cup to whoever wrote it for whatever reason it came into being. I’m just glad it’s here.

Jesus is just alright with me

Jesus is just alright with me, Jesus is just alright, oh yeah
Jesus is just alright with me, Jesus is just alright

I don’t care what they may say
I don’t care what they may do
I don’t care what they may say
Jesus is just alright, oh yeah
Jesus is just alright

Jesus is just alright with me, Jesus is just alright, oh yeah
Jesus is just alright with me, Jesus is just alright

I don’t care what they may know
I don’t care where they may go
I don’t care what they may know
Jesus is just alright, oh yeah

Jesus, he’s my friend;
Jesus, he’s my friend
He took me by the hand
Led me far from this land
Jesus, he’s my friend

Jesus is just alright with me, Jesus is just alright, oh yeah
Jesus is just alright with me, Jesus is just alright

I don’t care what they may say, I don’t care what they may do
I don’t care what they may say, Jesus is just alright, oh yeah

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Being the right person

Here is some more incredible truth today from Marti. Often when Marti writes, she writes around stuff and you learn to mine her writing for the kernels of truth she hides inside. Today, this is the whole kernel. This is loaded. You will want to not just read it but study it. There’s not even any context. You provide the context. And remember, though this is written about marriage, it applies to any relationship.

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by Marti Fischer

If you think that you have married the wrong person, but treat her like she is the right person, she will become the right one. On the other hand, if you think you married the right person yet treat him as if he were the wrong one, you will have clearly ended up marrying the wrong person.

Perhaps more importantly, can’t we BE the right kind of person rather than marrying the right person? Isn’t this the more important perspective? Whether you married the right or wrong person is primarily up to you as you are the decisive component. You are the only one you can do anything about. Your approach creates the climate, your attitude, the weather, making you hold tremendous power to make a life miserable or joyous. You can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration; you can humiliate or humor; hurt or heal.

Isn’t it your response that determines whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person humanized or dehumanized?

Given this, we can only conclude that if we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are. When we recognize the influence and responsibility that we have in a relationship rather than blaming the other for being the wrong person, we are no longer powerless to create positive change in a relationship. We can make a difference.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

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Your call

Lest you think we are the hunky dory couple with the Ephesians 5 marriage — everything going as it should –– think again. Each day requires new faith. There is no marking time. Faith for Tuesday doesn’t secure Wednesday’s challenges. I was up late last night and Marti fired off  a message to me before she went to bed after a stressful day. Some of you might find courage for your own walk in these words as well.

“I suggest, my dear John, that we declare right now in front of our brothers and sisters, I suggest we declare that we are God’s gift to us –– that I am God’s gift to you, and you to me.

“Embrace the truth, passionately. We must put our arms around us. We eat and drink what we each put before us. So often, we have rejected each other, pointing out the flaws (me verbally, and you in your conversations within your head) instead of focusing on the hope that lies ahead.

“Improve our lot by conveying a deep appreciation for what God has given, and when improvement is the result, proclaim it as from the Lord. Everyone wants to be appreciated; everyone wants to have valued placed on them. Who wouldn’t want more from God?

“Bringing the kingdom of God to our marriage is our privilege. We can bless our marriage, embrace it, and bring to bear the power of God on the areas that require miracles. Once the kingdom is in place, it is bound to expand into our children, our neighbors, our community, and into our Catch Citizens worldwide. I do not think it is the reverse.

“The key is to move forward.

“In Ephesians 5, I am commanded to give value to you, ‘Women submit yourself unto your husbands, as are you.’ But more importantly, you are to give yourself to me, ‘Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing by the word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself.’”

“Here is what I think: I think we need to restructure from God’s perspective what we are to be doing, with me coming with as much expectation to you as I would to Christ, and you greeting me, prepared to die for me as Christ did for you.

“No more chatting. Either join this marriage, embrace it, improve on it, and when miracles arise, give praise to the Lord for His work through you… or don’t. It is your call, husband.”

I’m picking up my call, Marti. Before these witnesses: I accept.

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