For as long as I can remember, it has been considered a virtue for Christians to be different from everyone who is not a Christian. The more different we are, the more spiritual we are. This is a tragic misinterpretation of the truth. This false virtue has played into legalism and Pharisaical attitudes in a big way. At least as I learned it, there was never any difference between different and better. To be different was to be better.
The connection to legalism is an obvious one. The easiest way to define different is by way of behavior: what you do and don’t do (with usually an emphasis on what you don’t do, as in Christians don’t drink or party or dance or swear, etc.). As long as spirituality can be defined as something we can control then we can assure ourselves of being better.
Then along comes Jesus to redefine everything. This is why the Pharisees hated Him so much: He messed up their system of being different. Jesus came along and basically redefined the law. It was as if He said: You say you haven’t killed anyone; I say if you have ever had hate in your heart, you are a murderer. You say you have never had your neighbor’s wife; I say if you have ever lusted for a woman in your heart you have committed adultery with her. You say you live by your vows; I say don’t vow anything because you won’t be able to keep it. You say someone should pay for what they have done wrong; I say turn the other cheek. If they force you to go one mile, go two. If they take your shirt, give them your coat, too. You say love your neighbor and hate your enemy; I say love your enemy and pray for those who persecute you. In other words, if you want to be righteous you’re going to have to be more righteous than these Pharisees here who think they have righteousness neatly wrapped up and under control and set themselves apart (as different) from everyone they judge. (Matthew 5:20-48 obviously paraphrased)
In each case, Jesus turned spirituality from an external behavior they could easily keep into an internal attitude they couldn’t. And when you realize you can’t is when you realize you are just like the people you are trying to rise above. You are just as big of a sinner as the next guy.
And here’s what I’ve discovered about this: there is a correlation between the false virtue of being different and being indifferent. The more different you think you are, the more indifferent you become to others and their needs. This is certainly the lesson learned from the Isaiah House women. The closer we get to them, the more we realized we are the same, and the more we realized we are the same, the more we care.
The more you realize how much the same as everyone else you are, the less indifferent to their needs you will become; you will come to care for them because you identify with them. This is why we all love and hate Marti. She turned a project into an involvement. It would have been much easier to drop a meal by the homeless and get back to your own home, but when you get close enough to realize how much the same you are, you can no longer maintain your indifference. Now we really care for these people; what will we do now?
Sooner or later we realize: We are all homeless; we are all adulterers; we are all murderers; we are all poor; we are all hungry; we are all mental cases; we are all lawbreakers, and we all need a savior.
Thanks to Jesus Christ, we all have one.















