The lady pouring coffee




And the lady pouring coffee, she knows the regulars by name

And if she doesn’t know you, she calls you “Honey” just the same

The lady who pours you coffee, knows your name, and calls you “Honey” if she doesn’t, should be the model for all Christians in the marketplace. Think about it.

First, she’s on a personal level with everybody. “Honey,” in some cases is more intimate than your own name. You can talk about anything with this lady and it will be okay. I had a grandmother who used to pat your hand and go, “There, there, dear,” to just about anything you could get riled up about. It’s a similar thing with the waitress. The lady with the coffee has the best therapy. She daily pours out advice, love and understanding. There’s nothing that can’t be put on the table. She’s better than a psychiatrist. She makes you feel normal.

Second, she’s exempt from the culture wars. She doesn’t take sides. She’s sympathetic to everyone’s point of view. Not that she just blindly agrees with everybody, but she finds out what she can agree with and sides with that. Or she just smiles. “I know, I know, dear,” she’ll say again.

Third, she’s politically neutral; the waitress transcends politics. She’s going to pour your coffee no matter what. You can be any party or no party at all, it doesn’t matter to her. It’s not that she ignores you. She’ll hear you out, but she’s not going to get into an argument with you. That’s not what she’s there for. She’s there to serve you. She’s going to make sure your coffee stays warm, and your breakfast suits you.

Finally, she cares for you unconditionally. She doesn’t have to find out anything about you first. She’ll serve you no matter what. You’re getting an unconditional breakfast. And if there’s something wrong with it, just tell her, she’ll send it back. Then she’ll find out more about you, but only after you’ve had the proper service.

And why is this a good model for Christins? Because loving someone and serving them is exactly what Jesus asks us to do. He told us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves, and made it clear that we are to serve each other — wash each other’s feet. Jesus came not to be served but to serve, and He is our example.

And we all love to hear it

Even if we have to fake it

‘Cause it’s nice to think that someone really cares —

Someone cares

And that’s just the thing. She does care. The waitress does care, and so do we. No one has to fake it, because it’s real.

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8 Responses to The lady pouring coffee

  1. It’s unfortunate that many of us “loving”, “outreaching”, “inclusive” Christians treat the waitress – and the grocery clerk, and the receptionist, and the toll taker, and the _____________ – as if they were no important than the stained wadded-up napkin we toss aside….

    • Sandie says:

      Bob – all those people in service that you mention put up with a lot of ‘you-know-what’ from those they serve, including from believers. They do it for very little money – I could never do it.
      What would it cost us to stop for a minute and make a nice comment? To at least smile and say thank-you?
      We frequent a biker bar for breakfast where the servers work like crazy, and get very little but grief from those patrons enjoying a ‘liquid’ meal. A few years back I started gifting our servers with home-made crafts for Christmas – you would think I gave them a million dollars.
      When I was a church youth director, I used to coordinate a Halloween event and secured donations from various businesses in town. Immediately afterward, I composed an individual thank-you on church letterhead for each business owner/manager and hand-delivered them. One year, a business owner almost broke down when he opened the letter -I almost cried too.
      How sad that my little efforts to show appreciation also showed how much these people were unappreciated by those they serve .Unfortunately, It is a picture of the way we treat Jesus too many times.
      That being said – Bob, I thank you for your well-thought comments you share with all of us that read The Catch. I appreciate your insight and willingness to share .And, that goes for EVERYONE that shares on this site!

      • I appreciate your kind comments Sandie, thank you!
        Wish I’d do a little better job at proofreading, though, before hitting “enter”! 😉

        I did have the privilege of working in a couple of those occupations long ago and It was a true eye-opener for me.
        Ever since, I’ve endeavored to be a friendly voice of support and encouragement to every one of those unsung heroes in the service industries.

        The place where I currently work has a contract with an outside janitorial company that employs people whom may not be the types of people some would want to associate with.
        However, I’ve been blessed to be able to work in an organization with a group of co-workers who truly appreciate the service this company and these individuals provide.
        Knowing that these souls are probably not the best paid or respected, we try to make them feel welcome in our office through casual conversations with them and preparing our work areas in advance so their jobs can be a little easier.
        At Christmas, we collect cash donations from our entire organization so we can give them gifts and Visa cards as a token of our gratitude for their hard work and friendliness all year long.
        They’re also invited to participate in other events such as birthday celebrations, retirement parties, etc….

  2. kellief4 says:

    Love this analogy.

  3. David says:

    This Catch is one of the best ever, if not the very best.

  4. “Generally speaking, bars are not bastions of grace and kindness…”

    I don’t know how I’d feel if this guy called me “honey” but if ever there was a timely story to fit in with this particular Catch, it comes from this past Friday’s CBS Evening News segment of “On The Road with Steve Hartman”:

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