Caught in the act of fixing something



My wife, Marti, doesn’t believe I ever fix anything around the house, so much so that when she caught me tightening the loose screws on the back door latch last night, she had to run and get the camera so she could record of this momentous occasion.

Now she draws this conclusion from the number of things around the house that never get fixed. Well, that’s because I’m too busy fixing all the things she’ll never know about, like — well … er … I can’t think of anything right now, but the list is definitely long. I mean, I don’t tell her every time I replace a lightbulb.

I love Paul’s sentiment in 2 Corinthians when He writes, “I hope someday you will fully understand us, even if you don’t understand us now. Then on the day when the Lord Jesus returns, you will be proud of us in the same way we are proud of you.” (2 Corinthians 1:13-14 NLT) Paul and I are definitely on the same page on this one, that’s for sure. I can’t wait to get to heaven and Marti will finally find out how many things I’ve been right about all along. Haven’t you ever had a similar thought?

Actually I do sometimes fix things, but my way of fixing things is quite bothersome to her. I will usually find a way to jury-rig something that breaks so we can get by until I have time to fix it properly or money to pay someone else to. Like the time the water heater sprung a leak and I brilliantly hooked up a garden hose to it and screwed a cap on the end of the hose. That worked for weeks until sediment from the busted water heater began showing up in the bathtub. That’s when, of course, I finally had to admit we needed a new water heater.

Do I detect a little martyrdom here? Am I a little too focused on myself? Am I a little over-indulged in keeping a record of rights and wrongs? Who cares? If I were properly focused on the other person, then I would be looking at things from her perspective, and suddenly I would see the bridge that never got the last coat of paint, or the window in the garage that’s still broken, or the fountain in the garden that doesn’t work anymore, or the battery in her car that needs to be charged, or the loose mailbox that never got tightened, or the bathroom sink that needs to be replaced, or the garden lights that are out. Hmmm … maybe there are a few things …

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6 Responses to Caught in the act of fixing something

  1. Mark D Seguin says:

    From Today’s Catch: “…I would be looking at things from her perspective” That’s my biggest lesson from Dale Carnegie book: “How to Win Friends…” is from Henry Ford to try to see things from another’s person perceptive. Is the key to success.

  2. TimC says:

    I have some friends. Surprise! The wife is much handier than the husband. They both know it. Everyone knows it. He works long hours, so she’s at home homeschooling their 9 year old, building the chicken coop, feeding the chickens, gathering eggs, (she says she’s getting about a dozen every day) selling eggs, (yes, I buy their eggs) repairing the chicken coop, building a retaining wall in the backyard so the neighbor’s yard doesn’t land in their’s, building the rain drainage system (this is Oregon), and the list goes on and on. Sheetrock installation, wiring, installing recessed lights in the ceiling, car repair? No problem for her. If something needs to be done, she’ll get it done. Now there’s a Proverbs 31 wife.

  3. Mike Seto says:

    I’m pretty good at replacing household items. I don’t repair, I usually end up breaking rather than fixing. I’ve replaced indoor and outdoor light fixtures, indoor and outdoor faucets, window screens, lawn sprinkler heads and fence pickets. I thought I’d save money by replacing the kitchen sink faucet, so I bought a replacement fixture and prepared to switch it out and discovered the nut holding one side of the fixture was rusted to the point I couldn’t budge it. Now I’m going to have to pay a plumber to change it for me, so far it’s been about 5 or 6 months and I still haven’t set up an appointment. I think we do the same thing with things we can’t seem to fix in our lives even though we know that if we give it up to God (like the plumber) he can fix it his way. Often we don’t want to pay the cost for doing it his way.

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